Well it sounds to me that you brought this whole situation on to yourself, what kind of action did you expect when your wife found out
that you have been secretly text messaging another woman who is not your wife. What kind of response do you think what would
happen if you weren't JWS ? The elders in the JW world play the role of Sheriffs of the County and your wife went to them because your
behavior with this other woman to her was deemed inappropriate, which from the outside appearances was correct.
Obviously your wife doesn't think your communication with this other woman is just friendly and platonic, otherwise she wouldn't
have gone to the elders to discus the situation over with them.
Sounds to me you got caught with your pants down and now you don't know which way to turn.
Why wouldn't you retrieve the messages if there is nothing damaging in them, just to show your wife that your not flirting and
carrying on with someone else ?
Anyways I'm not too sure why you've come here, the most notable anti-JW site around to discuss this personal matter with absolute total
strangers, personally you come off like your mentally off your rocker.